4 Things I Learned From My Daughter Before She Died

things-i-learned-from-my-daughter-before-she-diedMy name is Debbie. I once had a beautiful daughter named Chantal. She was the most beautiful and wonderful child anyone could ever want. Whenever she was with me, I felt like I was in the presence of royalty. Although she was only a year and a half when she died, I learned some very valuable things from her.

4 Things My Daughter Taught Me

1. Love

I never knew what real love was until she was born. She loved me simply because I was Mommy. I didn’t have to compete. I didn’t have to do anything to earn her love, except be me. Her love was unconditional.

2. Trust

She trusted me totally and I her. I never lied to her. I always told her the truth. I always wanted to shield her from the world and keep her safe.

3. Be Yourself

Even at her young age, she had a mind of her own. She always seemed to know what she wanted. For example, I wanted her to play with dolls. She wanted to play with trucks (she had two slightly older boy cousins who always played with trucks). Once while she was playing with a truck, I told my mother that I wanted her to play with dolls. My mom advised me to let her granddaughter play with what she wanted. Grandmal said that there was nothing wrong with her playing with trucks.

I refused to take my mom’s advice. I walked over to Chantal as she was playing with a truck, snatched it from her and placed a doll in her arms. Big mistake!

My daughter immediately threw down the doll and grabbed me by my leg before I could walk away and began screaming, “Give it back!!!”. I looked to my mom for help but Mom motioned for me to give back the truck. I looked down at my daughter. She had such a look of distress on her face that I gave the truck back. I learned there is nothing more important than being you and doing the things you love to do.

4. Cherish the Time You Have

Even though I only had my daughter for a short time, I wouldn’t trade that time in my life for anything. Having her changed my life forever.

My daughter taught me how to love, to march to the beat of my own drummer, and to appreciate the precious time I have with loved ones. The lesson we adults can learn from children are invaluable. If you have any, express your love for them as I wish I could.

My daughter was a true angel and a blessing.

-Debra Bean

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  1. Cheryl Smith says:

    After reading your post, I called my 19 yo daughter in college and told her how proud I was of her and how I loved her very much. I did the same with my other 3 daughters. It took 15 minutes out of my day. Their responses were “mom, are
    you ok? Are you sick and not telling me? Did something happen?” By their responses I realized it was so important they hear this from me more. I have been complacent. I also grasped the meaning that love is truly a verb.

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